Imagine you are with a partner, lounging around in the afterglow of an amazing sexy times and they say:
“I really appreciate you as a friend, I am glad we get to spend time together, and I especially like how your kinks and mine are so compatible…,” and then they pause and add “…BUT….”
Or someone says:
“I was really impressed with that speech…but…”
“That’s an amazing dress…but…”
“I like your new hairstyle…but…”
Or, one of my favorites:
“You’re right…but…”
When we use the word “but” in the middle of a sentence, it effectively negates everything that goes before it in the mind of others, and tells them the REALLY important bit is coming.
It makes that first dangly bit of words before the conjunction a sort of emotional sop that almost no one believes or takes good from.
In case you didn’t realize.
If you did, well, yay!
Spread the word.